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Friendship - Making New Friends All Your Life The Girl Scouts have a song that goes, “Make new friends including keep the old. 1 is silver including the other gold.” It is great advice. What typically happens as people age is that their circle of friends shrinks as people move, develop different interests, or die. Can’t you just feel life closing in at the time you think regarding it? Not making new friends is choosing to coast in life instead of embracing life. It is a script for premature aging. Try on the belief: I make new friends all my life–even at the time I am well into my hundreds. Notice how time including space open up? at the time you adopt the belief you tell your mind to develop a script to fulfill it. To make sure the belief sticks, look for examples of people who are always making new friends. They might be great role models. If you are shy, set a goal of learning how to make friends comfortably. Perhaps you might identify some shy people who has a knack for making friends including see how they do it. Another strategy is to become involved in organizations in which it is easy to make friends. If you are willing to take a leadership role in a particular organization making friends is even easier. Why do women live longer than men? 1 factor is that, on the whole, they are better at developing friendships including social networks than men. Michael Roizen’s Real Age statistics found that a 70-year-old man who is married, sees at least 6 friends monthly, including participates in social groups has a life expectancy 10 years longer than a man with none pertaining to the characteristics. For women the difference is 8 years. Marriage was a more important factor in life expectancy of men than of women–presumably because single women, on the whole, have more friends including those friends provide more emotional support. including Roizen’s research isn’t even looking at whether the marriages are happy marriages. The key factor that typically moves a particular acquaintanceship to a friendship is self-disclosure including sharing. “Keeping your cards close to your chest” is a prescription for loneliness. If you need to make friends, go ahead including be the first 1 to share personal feelings or information. What do you have to lose. At the point they are only a particular acquaintance including if they are turned off or scared off by you telling them that the user you will most like to meet is Richard Simons, then they wouldn’t have made a very good friend for you anyway. The rule of thirds says a third of people naturally like you, a third won’t, including a third could be apathetic. (Of course there are few exceptions for charismatic people including curmudgeons.) So you may as well be yourself including the people who could like you could like you for the real you. The only way to lose is to not play. So make new friends like your life depends on it. It does.
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