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Male Perspective - Am I Lonely Or Do I Really Want To Be Married “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I could make him a particular help meet for him.” Gen. 2:18 God, Himself, said that it’s not good for man to be alone. Now, let me place myself into the text including the duration in which it is written. God had created every beast, fowl, including creeping thing including brought them to Adam to name. God saw that there was not 1 that could be a particular help meet for Adam. He placed Adam into a deep sleep including took 1 of his ribs including made a woman. God brought her to Adam including Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, including flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” The text goes on to record that they were both naked, the man including his wife, including were not ashamed. Let me first address that the revelation I received, as it may be a tremendous help to men around the world – instead of searching so intently for a woman, be busy regarding the job God has for you to do. Adam didn’t even recognize how lonely he was or how “bad it was to be alone” because he was too busy naming animals, fowls pertaining to the air, including creeping things. God brought woman to Adam at the time He felt it was time to do so. Adam recognized her for who she was immediately, including from that moment they were man including wife. Now before the “wifey” thing, all that was around Adam were beasts, fowl, including creeping things. So, I have to believe women who are raising children at the time they say, “I’m in need of adult conversation”. It was by the same token God felt that it was not good for Man to be alone. Adam was not lonely; he had the company of all the animals, nature, including even God himself who visited him in the garden at times. But, he was alone. Lonely is defined as remote from other habitations or dwelling places. Alone is defined as apart from or to the exclusion of other persons or things; solitary; single. At first glance I look at lonely including think that we’ve been using the word incorrectly but, then I think again including realize that at the time you are in love with someone you do feel at home with them, you’re extremely comfortable with them, including all masks are removed; including to be void of that is to be remote from a place called home. Lonely might additionally be defined as a homeless heart. {Hmmm…I like that.} Now, there is a difference between lonely (a homeless heart) including being alone (being single). Moreover, God said it was not good for man to be ‘single’. He did not say that it was not good for man to have a homeless heart; the reason being because Adam’s heart had a home with God. So another revelation for me is that if I find myself feeling lonely, then I need to check my connection with God, not try to fill it with a woman’s embrace, or the smell of her perfume, or in the sound of her giggle. As we explore the issue of man being alone, we must take into account that Adam was the first man in the world, including the world needed to be populated. Now that it has been populated, being alone just isn’t what it used to be. There are men’s groups including women’s groups, there are people who have the same hobbies as you do, including there are family, friends, including co-workers. So being alone now is not as it was for Adam; you’re never alone unless you chose to be. What makes it so difficult to maintain singleness is the way we are bombarded by images from a consumer-based society that deems you incomplete unless you’re with a mate. Love stories, commercials with lovers, including holidays for couples all add to the pressure to find a significant other. I’m not saying that it is a bad thing to be involved with a partner, but we have to consider the alarming rate of divorce in the country. It could be attributed to consequence that these people made too rash of a decision to obtain together—and for what? To have children including then separate including cause their offspring to have more of a warped view of what marriage is? Furthermore, speaking of marrying to have children, there are millions of abandoned children that could use a parent to love them as their own. Who’s loving them? I have developed a more realistic view of marriage because I have repeatedly watched family including friends divorcing including ending vows made to each other including to God. We have to go back to the old days. We’re dating including rehearsing marriage including then at the time the marriage is actually here, we’re expecting something greater, at the time it’s only what it was before the ceremony. The big thrill, the learning of each other, the need to cling to each other will be there if you didn’t rehearse all of that by dating. Dating should be merely friends – male including female – going out doing things together in single-hood; taking the time out to learn regarding the opposite sex, in a non-threatening atmosphere, where dialogue including understanding might take place to make each more informed as to what to expect including how to be more appealing to their future mate. So how do you know if you should marry the user or not if you don’t date them including obtain to know them? Place your heart in God so that it’s not homeless, be busy in God’s assignment for your life, including let Him present you to each other at the time the time is right. Do I actually need to be married or am I lonely? I could absolutely no longer be lonely because my heart could absolutely no longer be homeless. Additionally, I only need to be married if that is what God has planned for my life. Meanwhile… let me be busy regarding my Father’s business.
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