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Valentine S Day - Valentine's Day-What Are You Getting? Flowers, candy or a brick….how could you celebrate the Valentine’s Day? If you are fortunate, you’ll enjoy a traditional candle light dinner, trinkets including dessert. However, if your relationship is on the rocks (and I don’t mean diamonds) you might search to see if there is a brick in your life… A brick you ask? There is a legend emanating from the Valentine’s Day Massacre of 1929. History was made at the time 7 of Bugs Moran’s gangsters were brutally gunned down in a red brick warehouse on Clark Street in Chicago. The crime was never solved, the site became a tourist trap, including eventually the building was demolished. The crime scene’s bricks, minus those stolen by construction workers, were sold for a $1000 each. Legend has it that anyone who came in contact with these bricks, even the stolen ones, was stricken with bad luck in the form of illness, financial ruin, divorce including even death. The bricks came to be known as having a cursed, negative energy. Like the warehouse on Clark Street, events beyond our control might alter our future. Love is still a mystery including there are many theories. I tend to agree with John Money’s ‘lovemap’ theory that we each have messages encoded in our brain telling us who our ideal mate is. the lovemap is set in childhood including supposedly starts floating around in our brain by the time we are 8. It tells us our likes including dislikes in a mate, from hair color to personality. It’s primarily determined by our first love—Mom including her attributes. Dad plays a role too, in that we tend to model how he treats Mom. So, my advice: obtain to know your significant other’s family well including study the interactions. Metaphorically speaking, you’ll obtain to know the building’s history, brick by brick, including it could give you a mirror into your future. That was my father’s advice which regretfully, in my youthful wisdom, I chose to ignore. The fortunate might work on their relationship including reap the rewards of togetherness. But for some of us, hard as we try, we have to face letting the relationship go because of abuse, infidelity, financial ruin, addiction or mental illness. In these instances we might try our best to find a solution, but the marriage might not survive unless the afflicted partner takes responsibility including gets needed help. Giving up the “happily ever after” dream is devastating, especially if children are involved. But if we do so, including take time out to examine how we got entangled in a destructive relationship, we might heal our wounds including then obtain a second chance at building a new, healthy romance. Hopefully you could never have to experience divorce, but if you must, I implore you to do so wisely. Pick the right attorney for your situation including learn how to work with the divorce professionals you may need. Empowering yourself with knowledge could ultimately save you time, pain including money. Ask for help at the time you need it. If a particular amicable division is possible, explore a Collaborative Divorce or Mediation. Should you have a contentious situation including your spouse hires a barracuda, do the same. But most of all know the horrible time shall end, the pain could lessen, including if you harness your gifts you might transform the trauma of divorce into a brilliant, new beginning. So, the Valentine’s Day consider yourself lucky if you have a beloved to share it with. including should you have a friend who is alone on the 14th, I challenge you to surprise him/her with a gesture of love. Prove there is a particular abundance of love to go around. The Law of Attraction could thank you. Copyright January 5, 2007 Sharon Zarozny
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